It's great if you get great pleasure from sex and cum every time. But the question is - does your partner have time to finish too? Probably, only the most complete egocentric can not be bothered by this. If in your habit of "shooting back" without waiting for a girl, then at least you deprive yourself of the pleasure of realizing what a great lover you are and seeing a female orgasm, which is also incredibly pleasant and aesthetically beautiful in itself. And over time, the girl can rightly ask herself the thought - "Why do I need such a rapid-fire gun?" Therefore, if you are fast as a shooter in the Wild West, it is worth reading a few helpful thoughts and tips below.
The relationship of mental and physiological factors
A person is an inseparable set of thoughts, emotions, feelings and everything that is called psyche on the one hand and bodily on the other. The connection between them is so close that changes in one component actively affect the state of the other. The simplest example, when a feeling of danger, adrenaline and various enzymes begin to be released into the bloodstream, accelerating the reaction of a person, making him stronger. The same thing happens and vice versa - the impact on certain organs of a person can lead to a change in mood, etc. And about the issue under consideration, the strongest arousal can cause a man to ejaculate without any physical effect on the penis. Therefore, further, we will consider ways to prolong sexual intercourse in two aspects - mental and physiological.
Psychological preparation for prolonged sexual intercourse
In our opinion, this is the most important component of the entire process, since the whole process and various actions, including the effects on physiology, affecting the duration of intercourse before ejaculation, will depend on self-control.
The main trick is to get the body excited, but not the brain. As mentioned above, at a certain level of mental arousal, ejaculation can occur without stimulating the penis, when the brain is the catalyst for ejaculation. To paraphrase the famous commander, we can say - "keep your head in the cold, and your penis in the warm."
Of course, one could argue that a significant part of the pleasure is lost, what kind of sex is it without arousal?
Yes, in the first stages, pleasure will really be lost, even the direct sensations from frictions will weaken. But this is only the first time, with practice you will learn to get a lot of pleasure and with a cool head. The main thing is to keep yourself at that level of psychological arousal, when there is an erection, you want to, but the brain does not stimulate ejaculation in any way. Also, for a real man and lover, the best reward will be the contemplation of multiple orgasms of the beloved. With practice, comes the skill of such control, which allows you to enjoy yourself, how much you need to satisfy a woman, and finally finish with her at the same time.
Also, the Taoists teach that if a man gets rid of the idea that he must certainly achieve ejaculation and orgasm, he will be able to make love more often and longer. He will find that his partner is enjoying himself and will be free to discover many new pleasures during intercourse.
So how can you keep your head in the "cold"?
For an experienced lover to keep his head in the cold, and a member in a combat state, there is no problem. If you are just thinking about this practice, you will have to use some tricks.
The most important thing is to make your brain work, load it, mentally take it away from focusing on the sensations of your body and pleasure. To do this, it is not necessary to remember the multiplication table or something like that, instead, you can and should load it with work on the topic. First of all, this is the collection of information about the level of arousal of the partner and its subsequent analysis. Any process proceeds through certain stages that occur after exposure to certain factors, including sexual intercourse. For both men and women, several stages of arousal are replaced before orgasm. These stages can and should be controlled, which is what a skilled lover does. Many articles have been written on this topic, we highly recommend reading them. The main thing is to accustom yourself to the fact that you are completely and completely in control of every second of intimacy, even if the partner is on top and it seems to her
Changing the "pleasure centre" will also help you cool your brain. For most men, during intimacy with a woman, the lion's share of the pleasure falls on the sensations of the penis during frictions in the vagina. And it is with this approach that a man loses a lot. Even in ancient Chinese treatises on the art of love (Tao), it was described that during sexual intercourse, a man has the opportunity to enjoy the erotic attributes of a woman - her naked body, smell, the touch of her skin, the taste of her saliva and lubrication of the external genital organs. Special attention is paid not only to the technique of intercourse but also to erotic caresses, including oral sex (cunnilingus and fellation). That is, the sexual intercourse adopted by the majority of men can be compared with the use of cheap alcohol when the liquid is poured directly into the throat and all the pleasure lies in the state of intoxication. According to Tao, sex should be like savouring expensive wine, when the aroma of the cork is first inhaled, the wine is poured into a special vessel so that it “breathes” with oxygen and the taste becomes more saturated and lively, in the process, you evaluate its colour, etc. ... The very first one takes a tiny sip with smacking lips to appreciate the bouquet of aromas….
In the same way, during intimacy with a woman, you need to turn on the brain and divert your feelings to enjoy the nudity of your partner, pay attention to beauty depending on the lighting, body curves, etc. If you wish, you will discover a lot of pleasure for yourself in leisurely stroking her skin with your hands. Gradually, you will learn to see a lot of different shades and nuances of sensations, and it will really be like tasting an expensive wine. But this does not mean that this pleasure is a lot of only foreplay. When the orgasm is still far away, but the woman is already good, it manifests itself in the emotions on her face, in the curves of the body, moans, etc. When a woman enjoys sex, she blooms, becomes more graceful, more beautiful and for a real man this alone is an incredible reward ... And if you are a good lover with a cold head, this is just a storehouse of information,
Most women, by their very nature, tend to enjoy not only frictions but all other sensations. In turn, such an approach of a man to intimacy with her is incredibly pleasant morally and strongly arouses.
But it should be noted that rarely, but there are girls with very meagre expression, whose pleasure outwardly may not manifest itself in any way even during orgasm. That is, it is completely incomprehensible whether it is good for her or how. If you come across such a person, and you yourself are quite temperamental and appreciate the beauty and expression of female orgasm, then perhaps you should think about whether you need such an "icicle"?
As mentioned above, controlling the situation and clearly thinking over your further actions will allow you to keep your head in the cold and avoid excessive excitement. Also, in the early stages, following certain methods of frequency, depth and strength of frictions, which were also proposed by the ingenious ancient Chinese, will help well. On the one hand, this is some brain work and therefore this method can be mentioned in the psychological preparation for long sexual intercourse, but on the other hand, this is a direct effect on physiology. So then we move on to methods of prolonging sexual intercourse to ejaculation through the impact on the body, the physiology of a man.
Prolongation of sexual intercourse through the impact on the physiology of men
We will not go into the deep nuances of anatomy and physiology, since it is unlikely that this will be useful to you in bed, but we will tell you about several practical and very effective methods that will help to postpone ejaculation.
All these methods are good because they allow you to train without a partner to be fully armed at the appointed hour. To put it bluntly, this kind of workout is masturbation with certain exercises. It should be noted that the author of the article is not burdened with any religious beliefs that prohibit this action. So, if this topic is a problem for you for some reason, you can skip reading the article further.
Chinese Tao Love Methods for Prolongation of Sexual Intercourse
The first method is the locking and braking method. It is easy to execute and easy to learn. It consists of a combination of control of one's arousal, alternation of deep and short frictions, timely breaks between them and deep diaphragmatic breathing.
First, it is proposed to use combinations of deep and shallow frictions, which can also be fast or slow. For example, three fast and shallow frictions and a slow deep third. The main thing is to remain mentally calm and not overexcited. When practising on your own, you can close your eyes to better feel your sensations. Both during training and with a partner, it is always best to breathe through your nose. This is not only more beneficial for the body, but in itself soothes the nervous system and sexual arousal, allows you to better control the situation. Breathing should be even, as any disturbance will affect erection and self-control.
When you feel that literally, a few frictions remain before ejaculation, then in one quick movement you need to remove the penis almost completely and stop breathing for 3-4 seconds. This delay counteracts the increase in physical arousal. Then you need to breathe deeply with the diaphragm and at the same time draw in the lower abdomen, as when holding back urination. With deep breathing, the agitation will soon subside. When you feel that you have completely calmed down, the frictions can be resumed. It is important to remember that you need to stop in time and control your breathing with strong arousal.
The method of inhibition is excellent, but it requires very precise control of arousal, a man must very clearly anticipate the point of "no return" when ejaculation is inevitable, to immediately apply the method. Better to stop earlier than too late. By practising this method, the man will be able to control his ejaculation and will not allow the erection to decrease. This way he will conserve his energy and feel remarkably collected. Combining the method of inhibition with deep diaphragmatic breathing, he can continue intercourse for a very long time.
It should be noted here that to learn how to control your ejaculation, as well as in any business, you need training. Of course, you can share your thoughts with your partner and if she is sympathetic to the matter, the learning process can be very enjoyable. In the same case, if you want to immediately show off your abilities in front of a girl, you will first have to practice on your own, or, more simply, masturbate. Variations are possible here. You don't have to show off but just use your hands. If you want more realistic and strong sensations, you can use special masturbators. Some models accurately simulate the inside of a woman's vagina with all the grooves, curves, G-spot, etc. Moreover, there are options with a slightly denser texture., giving the feeling of a virgin or vagina with trained muscles. Thanks to this, better stimulation of the nerve endings of the penis is provided, and therefore the training will be more difficult and effective.
The next method to postpone ejaculation is the squeeze method. It is widely used in our time and bears the name of a European doctor, but it was the Chinese who invented it first. It is simple and is as follows. When ejaculation approaches, when literally a few seconds and frictions remain to the point of no return, a man, using his index and middle fingers, presses on the point between the scrotum and the anus for 3-4 seconds, and at the same time, he takes a deep breath. This method has several advantages. First, a man doesn't need to remove his penis from the vagina. Secondly, time is not wasted for breaks in the contact of the genitals, and accordingly, neither the man's erection nor the woman's arousal is lost. Third, a man may not let his partner know about his ejaculation problems.
The ancient sages of Tao believed that a man who really knows how to control ejaculation can perform 5 thousand frictions and can satisfy 10 women per night. But to satisfy a woman, you need to be not only a hardy "sewing machine", but also something else to know and be able to.
