The language of love: how men feel about cunnilingus

 

Technically, cunnilingus is just one of the ways to give pleasure to a partner, only with the help of the tongue and lips, and not with the hands, penis or various sex toys. However, the attitude towards him is quite biased, and the topic can be included in the list of taboo in a decent society (especially in the CIS countries).

 

According to surveys conducted in America and Europe, more than 64% of the male population has a positive attitude towards cunnilingus, about 30% are neutral and / or have certain "points" - requirements for a partner; less than 6% are strongly against it. If you believe the figures obtained during sociological research in the CIS countries, the situation is much sadder. So, there are about 15% of negatively-minded men, and only 47% are positive; the rest are neutral or unable to decide.

 

Cunnilingus Club

 

Here are some of the most common reasons why men enjoy this way and can enjoy the process themselves:

 

  • Sincere emotions for a woman: love, passion, respect, which turn Cooney into a pleasant action. Most of the respondents admitted that they are afraid to do cunnilingus in the early stages of a relationship due to lack of confidence in their skills. In turn, the girls admit that they consider this type of oral sex more intimate, so they do not start practicing right away. But the stronger the emotions become in a couple, the easier it is for both partners to loosen up and enjoy cunnilingus mutually.
  • A little selfish desire to gain access to the body , to conquer a woman. Many women are not indifferent to oral sex, and confident men can even resort to such pleasant tricks.
  • "Eye for an eye" - for many men blowjob and cunnilingus are on the same positions in importance. Therefore, if the partner is ready to give pleasure, then he, of course, will satisfy her desire.

 

Cunnilingus is a great way to add variety and spice to your sex life. In addition, such oral sex is great as a foreplay.

 

Neither fish nor meat - why many are indifferent to cunnilingus

 

The most common reason men talk about their indifference or negative attitude towards cunnilingus is because they have had negative experiences . Nevertheless, if every girl can do a blowjob, even without special skills, then with Cooney the situation is much more serious. In the absence of complete trust between partners and discussion of failure, a man begins to develop negative associations that prevent him from liberating himself in the future. Unfortunately, to solve such cases, sometimes you cannot do without a sex therapist or psychotherapist.

 

Another reason for the lack of a special desire to do kuni is associated with tactile sensations. Many men admit that they are ready to satisfy their partner orally only if she does not have excess vegetation.or a neat intimate haircut. In such situations, everything is easily solved by frank conversations in a couple and the observance of intimate hygiene.

 

Why are men against?

 

There is no dispute about tastes, but more and more doctors are talking about the fact that blowjob and cunnilingus are natural forms of sex, necessary for a healthy sex life. At the same time, in our society, it is customary to talk only about pleasing a woman to a man, and keeping silent about oral sex for the fair sex. This is directly related to the patriarchal type of society in which we live, and the values ​​that were laid, if not in our generation, then definitely in the previous one. Men often grow up selfish, believing that a woman should serve him both in everyday life and in bed, and cunnilingus is humiliating and nobody needs it.

 

Here you can add a special upbringing, in which it is shameful to talk about sex, but they need to deal with them under the covers with the lights off. It is not surprising that the numbers in our surveys differ significantly from European countries and America - the question is in mentality and what parents put into children's heads. Among those who answered negatively to questions about Cooney, a large percentage of older men, or never-practicing guys, who heard a lot of bad things from more experienced friends.

 

It is no less sad when a man takes an unsuccessful attempt at Cooney deep to his heart and cannot trust his partner. Here there can be both a fear to seem inexperienced and inept, and fear of the process itself, "close contact" with female genital organs, and so on. In this case, the couple should seek the advice of a specialist.

 

I would like to finish the topic on the positive. For twenty men who are sexually active, have regular partners and / or beloved women, only one expresses a negative attitude towards cunnilingus. This once again reminds you that you should not be afraid to talk about your desires, and if there are any fears or complexes - to voice them.