Sex toys: why you need them and how to choose them
Types of devices for women, men and couples, recommendations for selection and care and advice for beginners. Life hacker shares the most important information about adult toys.
Why try sex toys
“Everything should be natural,” some will say. “But what's the point in being natural without orgasm,” others will argue. So the first reason is trivial: pleasure. This is especially true for women who find it difficult to achieve orgasm without strong clitoral stimulation, and men who tend to come to the finish line too quickly.
The second reason is also not particularly original. Sex toys bring variety to the lives of single people. Of course, they will not be able to completely replace a living person (although manufacturers of sex robots are working in this direction), but they will definitely brighten up the gray everyday life.
The same goes for people who have been in a relationship for a long time. A little variety in sex will only refresh the union.
In the end, even buying sex toys itself can turn into a little adventure. Provided that for this you go together not to specialized sites, but to an adult store. Well, if for your couple it has not yet become a routine.
How to choose sex toys
A beginner can get confused in the world of sex toys. Therefore, the optimal solution for the start is to decide which zone and which type of stimulation are most interesting for you, and choose the simplest model. In a rush to buy a multifunctional and expensive device, you run the risk of wasting money. Start with the basics. After that, it will become clear where to move next and whether you need it at all.
User reviews are also a good hint. They will help you get a better idea of your future purchase.
For those who want to test as many devices as possible - advice: start with cheap products. They are not suitable for long-term use, but they will clearly demonstrate what's what. After that, you can choose a higher quality model.
It is believed that the best devices are made of non-porous materials: silicone, glass and stainless steel. Their structure prevents bacteria from entering. For owners, this means ease of maintenance, safety and long-term use.
ABS plastic, thermoplastic elastomer (TPE) and thermoplastic rubber (TPR) are generally hypoallergenic and safe. But they belong to porous materials, therefore, they require more careful care and caution when using.
The most dangerous are products made of PVC, jelly and vinyl, which may contain chemicals harmful to the body (phthalates and others).
Latex is also a controversial material. It can cause allergies, have an unpleasant odor and is also not very durable.
How to add toys to a couple's sex life
We have already written about how to tell your partner about your desire . But there are a few more rules for sex toys.
First, talk to your partner about using these devices. Be tactful so that he does not suspect that you are horribly dissatisfied with your sex life.
Before putting the device into the general game, test it yourself. A bad first impression can permanently discourage you from trying again.
In any case, it is better to start using the toy gently and carefully. At first, it is especially important to have feedback in order to find the best application.
If you have been a fan of toys for a long time and want to introduce them to a new partner, choose the right moment for this meeting. At the first sexual contact, it is better not to overwhelm with such news: there are already enough new impressions. But you shouldn't delay too much with this, otherwise you may get the impression that you are keeping some shameful secret.
- Read the instructions before use. So the risk of all sorts of excesses will be significantly reduced.
- Remember the rules of hygiene. Always wash your hands before and after using toys. The toys themselves also need to be washed (preferably with antibacterial soap) and stored in a clean place. Some devices require special cleaning, so do not forget about the first point.
- It is better to dry toys in an open way. If you don't have this option, use a towel. But before you hide the devices, make sure every detail and every nook and cranny is dry.
- Try to use condoms. Especially if your toy is porous. Otherwise, you can reward yourself with some kind of disease.
- Do not use the same toy for anal and then immediately for vaginal penetration (and vice versa). There is a serious risk of getting an infection. However, condoms can solve this problem.
- If you are using intimate lubricants, remember that water-based lubricants are suitable for silicone products. Other lubricants can damage the toy. By the way, it is better to test the lubricant itself on the skin first and make sure that it does not cause an allergic reaction in you.