Realistic sex frequency of happy couples
Not having sex at all or being less frequent than the first time can certainly be a sign of an unfortunate relationship. However, according to recent scientific research, a friend who boasts of having sex every morning may not actually be happier than you. According to a 2015 study in Social Psychological and Personality Science, you don't have to have sex every time you think you have to wash your hands. The thesis says it is excessive to have a relationship more than once a week. Especially if you are forced to do it. Older couples usually have a relationship about once a week. In other words, the average number of married couples is 51 times a year. Not only married couples but also unmarried couples having sex are said to be the driving force in maintaining love more ''intense'' by holding hands or kissing rather than the frequency of sex in older couples.
Recently, I confessed to my friend that I had never had a relationship with my boyfriend in the last few weeks, and he was shocked. I have a very good relationship with my boyfriend, but I haven't had sex due to some health problems (which didn't create a mood either). On the other hand, the friend said that he had been with his boyfriend for four years and that he had sex every day since the first relationship. I honestly thought it was nonsense. I was jealous, and I felt a little competitive. In theory, if you love, you should have sex every day, right? Like Jake Gyllenhaal listening to Rihana's paparazzi with his lovely eyes, aren't our couples unable to have sex often because they're not hot? I was depressed. But after that, as I chatted with my friends, my jealousy began to diminish. She says she feels bored during sex. It was amazing that I had the energy and enough time to have a relationship, but I couldn't believe that I was bored with sex. It was a story I couldn't imagine. And a couple of friends broke up a few weeks later. I wasn't surprised.
About once a week or two weeks
I did a non-scientific survey of 40 people via Twitter. (Gender and relationship status were not considered.) It was asked about the frequency of sex and whether the relationship was still happy after time. Responses were divided into three categories. First of all, when it comes to singles, they've had sex about once a month or more, they want to have sex more often, and they want one partner who can get along consistently. (A woman with multiple partners revealed that they had a relationship four times a week.) The following group lived with one spouse each and had sex three to six times a week. Most of them were newlyweds or young couples. (I guess they've been married for less than 5 months or in their 20s.) They all noted that they were satisfied with the number of sexes, but when they were stressed or busy, they naturally decreased.
Finally, the group with the largest distribution of couples is the older couples, who get into relationships about once every week or two. Most of them said they were satisfied with the number of times, but said they would do it more often. However, he added that it cannot be done because of a real problem. (Surprisingly, health problems were most often cited among the real problems they talked about.) The meaning of not having good enough' sex now can be interpreted as having done more than now. Again, without one exception, he mentioned that he had sex much more often at first.
In general, it is difficult to maintain the frequency of sex as before after the honeymoon phase. Obsession, as defined by psychologist Dorothy Tenor, refers to the psychological state of couples 18 to 24 months after they started a relationship. During that time, you will love all of your partner's actions. Even the appearance of not closing the door of the kitchen drawer or talking about an uninteresting drama. It's because, during this time, the brain commands hard to make you love your partner. But over that period, the brain's chemistry changes. Passion fades away, patterns become monotonous, and the number of sexes naturally decreases.
No one is achieving the ideal number of sexes
We have a social obsession with the number of sexes. In particular, people believe that men remain in a state of revealing sex all their lives, so they hang their throats on the number of sexes. I don't think women are going to get so much pressure on their partners and sexual satisfaction. All of this is prejudice. We are all obsessed with our own drama about the number of sexes. Nobody lives up to the perfect conditions created by the obsession, but I believe others will live up to them.
If you're still in a relationship, even if it's small, you don't have to get into the obsession with doing it more often. You can do it whenever you get a natural mood. It's not something you have to do every week. Rather, excess sex leads to boredom. If it doesn't come from a passionate mood, it's just a workout. If you try to increase the number of sex for no reason, a good relationship can break down. However, if you have a healthy relationship, you will naturally develop more frequent sex, not an obligation. So let's get rid of the obsession and cool off. You can fall asleep by opening a bottle of wine and watching a new documentary series. I already had enough sex this week.