What if you don't want to do a blowjob, but he insists? This problem is especially relevant if you have already had oral sex before. His persistence can be intrusive. And how to refuse so that he is not offended?
Forced sex
There is such a strange thing, once you agree, and then you will be asked about it again and again. But blowjob is a job, and quite stressful for a woman. Of course, you can get pleasure from this, but if the process is delayed, it becomes not very pleasant.
Why can a woman refuse a blowjob? There are several commonplace, but very compelling reasons:
- Lack of hygiene. Unpleasant odors may be present if he has not taken a shower before sex. And not every woman wants to take a member in her mouth that smells too bright.
- If arousal does not occur. A weakened erection is a problem. And warm lips can fix everything, but if this does not happen in the first 2-3 minutes, the blowjob turns into torture. There is nothing pleasant about holding a tight penis in your mouth.
- If he can't finish for a long time. With such a problem, a woman has to make movements for a very, very long time. And depending on the posture, the neck, arms and even cheeks become numb. To speed up the finish, you need to keep the rhythm or speed up a little, and this is not always easy.
- If he tries to lead the process. If he begins to hold his head or make progressive movements on his own, trying to penetrate as deeply as possible. First, it's rude, and not everyone likes it. Secondly, it can cause a mouth reflex, and this will definitely not add pleasure to a woman.
- If he threatens or blackmails. If he says that he will not do something, if you refuse a blowjob, or claims that he will go to another - such things do not increase the desire to pamper him with intimate kisses. On the contrary, a woman may agree, but inside it will only cause even more disgust.
- If his semen tastes disgusting. Various factors affect her, but cigarettes, alcohol make her terrible. You can correct the taste with proper nutrition. But if she has to swallow a substance with an unpleasant taste and aroma, it scares off.
And excess vegetation on the body can also frighten off, because it is unpleasant to constantly spit out hair. Another unwillingness to swallow sperm, but at the same time a lack of understanding - how not to offend him by spitting out. And his orgasms without warning are also not a reason to repeat the experiments.
How to deny him oral sex?
The easiest way is to laugh it off. It’s just that all his requests are “I don’t want to” and playfully offer sex with penetration. The alternative will allow him to receive sexual release, and there will be no conflict.
If he continues to insist, you should just tell him that you are tired. By referring to a hard day, you can completely get away from sex. And if this raises questions, you can discuss it not in bed, but over a mug of tea. The partner must understand that it is not always desirable to "work" during sex. To mitigate the situation, you should promise him that next time you will still agree to this affection.
If he doesn’t do cunnilingus, you can refuse the blowjob. Offer him an exchange, your affection in exchange for his. But it will work only if he is categorically against pleasing you like that. If he loves caresses with his lips and tongue, you will have to fulfill your promise after his manipulations. And the offer to exchange intimate kisses may be an excuse for him to try Cooney. And there is a chance that he will like it and your sex life will become brighter.
Not a very honest, but effective way to refuse a blowjob is to refer to a doctor. Oral sex may be prohibited by a dentist or otolaryngologist. Go to the dentist's office, and then tell your loved one that until you cure all caries, blowjobs are strictly prohibited. He won't be able to test your excuse, unless he is a dentist himself.
What else can help give up blowjob? You can come up with a huge number of excuses. But honest conversation is best. It is worth telling the man what exactly you do not like about this affection. It is important to state the real reason. Maybe you just don't want that kind of contact every time, and that's okay. Maybe this does not excite you at all, and this is also not a pathology. And already if it is a haircut or a smell, then it will not be difficult to eliminate it. Try to be honest, and the relationship will become much easier and the sex more enjoyable.
