How To Choose A Lubricant For Your Purpose
Lubricantis, Withouta a douubt, A useful element of any sexual practice, regardless of the gender of the partners and the stimulation they prefer. However, there is no universal remedy: it all depends on how and for what purpose it is planned to be used, as well as on the compatibility of materials - some lubricants can damage condoms or sex toys. Here are some things to keep in mind when choosing and using a lubricant.
Use lubricant more often.
The conversation about lubricants usually starts with the suggestion to use them when the natural lubrication is not enough. However, in some situations it is mandatory: for example, during anal penetration, natural lubrication is not released in principle, so the lubricant is needed to make the process more comfortable and safer.
In other situations, everything may not be so simple: sensations are individual and what seems to someone insufficient may be familiar to others. This, however, does not mean that you do not need to add lubricant to the process, simply because you are not used to doing it. Research shows that about one in thirteen British women experience painful sensations during penetrative sex. The reasons are different, but one of them is vaginal dryness, which may be associatedwith menopause, taking oral contraceptives or antidepressants, breastfeeding and other reasons. In this case, you can try a lubricant to see if the natural secretion is enough or if more should be added. Of course, a lubricant does not always solve the problem of unpleasant sensations - so if you have any doubts, you should contact a specialist.
Do not replace with improvised means
Saliva instead of lubricant is a popular technique that nevertheless will not compete with the use of a special product. In general, experts do not believe that it is dangerous to do this - unless, of course, the partner does not have an infection. An exception is anal sex: for example, a number of studies link the use of saliva as a lubricant during anal penetration with the spread of rectal gonorrhea. In any case, saliva is corny less effective: remember how quickly a wet finger dries out - the lubricant from the tube will obviously last longer.
Other popular folk remedies like petroleum jelly, cream, and oils like coconut are also not the best choice. First, the oil in the product destroys condoms - and this increases the risk of transmission and unwanted pregnancy. Secondly, the oil is difficult to wash off (and is washed out of the vagina, for example), and the bacteria that remain in it do not bode well. Finally, manufacturers understandably do not test cooking oil for use during sex - so no one can guarantee that it will be as safe to use as a special product.
Find the type you need
Lubricants are different, so when choosing, consider how you will use them. The most basic and versatile are water-based lubricants. They are suitable for many situations: they are compatible with any condoms and sex toys, including silicone ones, and they are also easy to wash off. The only drawback of such lubricants is that they dry faster than others, so you will have to renew the layer often. In addition, they dissolve in water, so they are not suitable, for example, for sex in the shower.
Another popular type of lubricant is silicone based. They do not dry out longer and are suitable for use with condoms - both latex and polyurethane. Because they hold up better, these lubricants are often recommended for anal penetration. They can also be safely applied, for example, in the shower. In use, however, these lubricants are not as versatile as their water-based cousins: they damage the material of silicone sex toys, so they cannot be combined. In addition, they can leave stubborn stains on clothes and bedding, so a special cleaning agent may be required to clean them . There is also a hybrid version of a water-based lubricant with the addition of silicone - however the effect of it will be like a "mixed version".
A less popular type of lubricant is oil or fat based. They are suitable, for example, for masturbation and massage, but not for penetrating practices. Such lubricants destroy protective equipment and toys ( excluding glass and metal), increasing the risk of transmission. In addition, they are difficult to wash out, which can also threaten health problems.
Focus on a specific situation
Lubricants can also have additional properties. For example, there are lubricants with a warming or, conversely, cooling effect. The former increase blood flow to the genitals and arousal (note that this is really a lubricant, not just aphrodisiac ). The latter give unusual sensations, and can also have a prolonging effect - slightly reduce sensitivity and delay the approach of orgasm.
In addition to these, there are flavored lubricants that can also be edible (read the packaging carefully so as not to be mistaken). The latter are intended for oral sex, and although there is usually no special need for them in such a situation (there is enough moistening with saliva in the mouth), they can diversify the process. There are a lot of flavors - from standard strawberries and cherries to salted caramel and cookie dough. It's best to try them beforehand just in case .
There are also lubricants for sensitive microflora - most often water-based. For example, they are recommended for people with high sensitivity or those who start having penetrative sex after a break - say, due to childbirth. Ingredients such as aloe can also be added to them .
Many people use lubricants not for sex at all - for example, so as not to rub their feet together when walking. One of the most common options is to use the lubricant with your menstrual cup (remember that silicone-based lubricant can destroy the cup material). True, there are no unequivocal recommendations. Some bowl makers advise adding a little lubricant for a more comfortable insertion. Others, on the contrary, say that it is not worth doing this due to the fact that the lubricant has been in the vagina for too long. Alternatively, both suggest wetting the bowl with warm water for easier insertion.
Apply gently and heartily
The lubricant can be used for both penetrating sexual practices and, for example, for rubbing, in which case it can facilitate sliding. There are no special rules: the lubricant can be applied to genitals, fingers, sex toys - anywhere. You can add a little lubricant to the penis under the condom, as long as the lubricant is compatible with the material of the protective device. Before applying the lubricant, you can warm it up a little in your hands - not everyone likes the sensation of cold lubricant on the body. Of course, there are no clear recommendations on the quantity - try it and do not be afraid to add more.
Always follow the expiration date (carefully study how it is counted on the packaging), after its expiration, the properties of the lubricant may change. Keep in mind that lubricants can be allergic, especially if they contain additives such as fragrances. To test the body's response, you can first apply a little lubricant to your hand and check the effect after a few minutes.
Commonly allergic lubricant ingredients include glycerin, parabens, and propylene glycol, as well as the spermicide nonoxynol-9 (remember that spermicides are ineffective contraceptives). A reaction often appears to lubricants with additional components, such as warming or flavoring agents. Lubricants with fewer impurities may be easier, but of course it's all individual. Some people experience irritation after silicone lubricants if they are not rinsed off well enough. There is evidence that glycerin in the lubricant canprovoke the appearance of thrush. Irritation can be related not only to a reaction to a lubricant, but also to an infection or other allergy (such as latex) - so it may be helpful to see a doctor. Remember that using a lubricant with an anesthetic for anal penetration is dangerous: there is a risk of not noticing pain or missing serious damage.